My name is Jakia Monee Lindley. For years I kept my secrets quiet. But the time has come for me to speak. No, I cannot speak for every member of the service, nor will I try to. But I will tell you about the unresolved trauma I brought into my own military service. I will detail the harassment I faced as a woman in the Air Force, and the abuse I suffered when I obeyed the order of “if you see something, say something.” I will share about the domestic violence I experienced at the hands of my ex-husband, a fellow airman. I will be open about the system that sucked the will to live from me.
In sharing my story, War at Home, I relived several painful personal experiences in hopes of breaking the silence, destroying the stigma, and ending the cycle that is too common for those in toxic, abusive relationships. I believe that by working together, we can forge a stronger, more positive culture, one that makes the world safer for us as well as future generations.